New Year, same old you….but improved

My take on resolutions and what I am doing differently…for once

As soon as that bell drops, you hear talk of new year’s resolutions. Some view the new year as an opportunity to make change for something- be it personal, physical or financial. For others its a time to set a goal (or goals) to further better themselves.

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I’ve often found myself thinking that resolutions are not achievable because we never follow through with them. We always hear “this will be my year to lose weight” or “I want to start a new job” but those extra few pounds end up hanging on or we are still sitting at our old desks.

How do I know this? Well, way back when, I too used to make resolutions. Losing weight was always a big one on my list, but after a few weeks into making my resolution, I would go back into my old ways. Eventually, I would give up and lose sight of my goal. I became cynical and vowed never to make a resolution again. I found them to be useless as I never stuck with them.

The past few months I spent a lot of time soul searching about what’s important to me and what truly matters in life. I believe that in today’s society we are exposed to too much vanity and consumerism that it made me question what I think is real and what is truly valuable. It then dawned upon me – instead of making a resolution – why not make a commitment to better myself?

Some commitments I made to better myself for 2019 are:

1. To spend less time on the phone: we don’t realize how much time we waste on our phones. Don’t get me wrong, I love browsing through friends pictures on Instagram or looking up recipes on Pinterest, but we really need to put our phones down and spend more time talking to one another and being sociable. It’s also a huge distraction. At home, we have already implemented a rule to keep our phones to the side unless we need to make or take a phone call. As we’ve become more self-conscious of how much screen time we expose ourselves and our children, we forget what real conversations are like. We end up spending way too much time comparing ourselves to others, because everything on social media is real, right? The point is to develop a healthy balance of screen time versus me/family/friend time.

2. To stop being so self-critical of myself: it’s true. We are our own toughest critics. I often tell others to not be so hard on themselves yet I am the hardest towards myself. I am trying to accept me for me and to accept that not everything will be picture perfect. I’m trying to tell myself that I am doing a good job trying to keep a good balance of everything.  I will admit, achieving this notion of self-acceptance will be very challenging and please know that I am “working on it.”

3. To take the focus away on appearance and move it towards health: it’s not about the number on the scale (or dress size for that matter,) its about how you feel. My goal this year is to stay healthy and make the time for myself.  This goal is more realistic as opposed to the “I am going to lose 10 lbs this year” one.  Whether it’s running around outside with the kids, or going to spin class, the point is to take some time every day for physical activity.  Preventative health is so important for both mental and physical health so why not start now?  I love the feeling after a good workout, it makes me feel well-rounded and balanced.   Also, I am trying to be more aware of what I’m consuming. Generally speaking, I do eat healthy, but I do splurge now and then (ummm donuts) and I have to remind myself that it’s okay to do so, but, as they say, everything in moderation.

4.  To be more thankful:  we so often take for granted what we already have and we get so wound up in day-to-day life that we forget what really counts.  I am making a commitment this year to be thankful everyday for what I already have.  From the roof over my head, to those smiles that look at me everyday, I am so grateful.  I think it’s so important to step back and take a moment to reflect on the things that actually count.

Walking through a vineyard at Seavey Vinyards (Napa Valley, 2018)

These are my commitments to myself for this year. What are yours?

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